Building Up Our Family

Text: Psalm 127:1-5     Family Sunday PBBC    (February 28, 2010)  March 24, 2013

Preacher: Pastor Jose B. Cabajar


       Building up our family according to the will of God is undoubtedly a brilliant move because we believe that it is a wise investment today with sure profit tomorrow. How sad but true that many people today are more excited to build up their house buildings than their homes. From time to time, it is also wise and needful to ask ourselves an investigatory question like this: “Is there a home in our house?” Well, we may be allotting a huge budget and busy renovating or beautifying our house to make it an ultimate comfort for us, but neglecting the needs of our homes. Isn’t it good for us to examine and evaluate what we are really doing today for our families before it is too late?   


       We should not exchange the spiritual and moral values of our home for deceitful and pride-producing offers of the world. As we observe the inclination of our present generation, we could see how people live in this materialistic world. Obviously, most inhabitants of this planet earth are more interested in the things of the world than things that are associated with God. No doubt, they are more interested with their secular activities than their spiritual life. Our secular and spiritual life should be well-balanced lest we fall into the deep pit of deception.      


       It seems that many Christians are doing tough balancing acts as they walk nervously on the uncertain wire of life and they are doing it in the name of “survival”. Pressures of life and uncertainties of the future are truly squeezing and ushering them unaware to walk by sight instead of by faith; but blessed are those who walk by faith for they will see the glimpse and have the assurance of brighter future.


       A careful study of Psalm 127 will open our eyes of understanding concerning the things that God wants us to know about our God-given family. Our family is a gift from God and it is only proper for us to love, guard and to protect our home from bad elements so the members of our family will continue to live according to the blessed plan of God.


       The Word of God is what we really need in this chaotic world and it should be our conviction not to depart from its principles because without the guiding-power of the Word, our families will surely become victims of vanities and foolishness of this world. If we really want to build up our families, we should choose the Holy Bible to be the most treasured book in our homes.             


      As we build up our Christian Homes, we must be aware that such wise move also contributes strength to our Local Church. We must love our God-given family and the Local Church where we belong. With such wise steps of life, our deep love for our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ will be exemplified in a wonderful way.                 


(I)    Its Impossibility Without God

Psalm 127:1-2    Isaiah 49:2


       In Psalm 127:1, it is written, Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. (KJV) Beyond doubt, we cannot do anything for the betterment and maintenance of our families without God. 


          -Without the help of God we labour in vain


       We may do our best in building our families, but in the long run, we will end up frustrated because our best is not enough to secure our homes especially in this age where fidelity in marriage is becoming a fading thing. It is sadly true that the sanctity of marriage has not been taken seriously anymore and we know that behind such problem is the working of the devil through man’s fleshly desires.         


          -Without the protection of God we will become an open prey


       Outside God’s protection, every family is an open prey for predators. The devil wants to destroy Christian Homes, but we must keep in mind that God wants our families to be intact and strong in Him. The psalmist said, except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. Evidently, no matter how alert we are in guarding our place, still we could never secure it with complete assurance if God’s protecting presence is not with us.    


          -Our own way will lead us to frustration


       Building our family with our own understanding and strength will only lead us to frustration. In Psalm 127:2, it says, It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep. (KJV) This verse is so relevant in our days. It describes our general population in a mind-stirring way. It gives us a glimpse of the past, and at the same time, offers us a sharp picture of a typical person today who wants to contribute his strength for the progress of his family.


       Truly, bread winners and typical success-seekers rise up early in the morning and they are well-known as very industrious people. Sometimes they call themselves “Self-made Achievers”. They work really hard in pursuit of fame, popularity, power and riches and their hearts are so focused on money-earning activities to the point that they stay late at work and neglect the other needs of their family members. They are willing to be robbed of their sleep and they call it “sacrifice”. The sad thing is: they missed the strengthening fellowship of their family members. Worst of all, they overlook their fellowship with our Heavenly Father through Bible reading, praying and worshipping Him in spirit and in truth. They seem to be prospering, and yet in reality, they are becoming poorer and poorer spiritually.    


       Obviously, many people are worrying a lot because of the cares of this world and hurrying to get rich not realizing the sad consequences of such mindset. In Proverbs 28:20-22, it is written, 20 A faithful man shall abound with blessings: but he that maketh haste to be rich shall not be innocent. 21 To have respect of persons is not good: for for a piece of bread that man will transgress. 22 He that hasteth to be rich hath an evil eye, and considereth not that poverty shall come upon him. (KJV) What a relevant warning for us to take heed!


       The middle part of Psalm 27:2 warns us, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows. There are people who are so engrossed with their work that they tend to lose their appetite, miss their meals, lose their good health, and before they realize it, they could even hardly eat bread because of severe illness and eventually they lose their lives. How tragic it would be to be working deadly hard in order to gain much bread only to end up eating the “bread of sorrow”. No doubt, the first part of verse 2 reminds us, It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late. Flaming desire for earthly things is vanity. What an excellent lesson to learn from especially in this so called “worry-hurry-and bury” generation.  


       It is impossible for us to build up our families without the working of the Holy Ghost in our lives. It is best to realize that God should be the first in our lives, and by doing so, all our needs will be provided by His caring hand. And be reminded also that our faith in the Lord will bring us to His cradle-like hands where we could take refuge, rest and sleep without fears and insecurities. Take a look at the last part of the verse which says, for so he giveth his beloved sleep. Trust God at all times and enjoy your sweet sleep. Amen.                              


        (II)   Its Possibility With God

        Psalm 127:3


       With God all things are possible and surely, He can help us build our families according to His blessed will. We must keep in mind that God alone could build and bless our families and without Him our hard work will turn into vanity.     


       -God is the true house builder


       Trust God as the true builder of our homes. Reliance on His ways will lead us to become what He wants us to be. We should let the Lord build our homes and surely, the result will be God-glorifying. (see verse 1)


       -God has the power to bless and enlarge our family


       The power of God is beyond human capability and the things we cannot accomplish are just easy tasks for the Lord. In I Chronicles 4:10, it is written, And Jabez called on the God of Israel, saying, Oh that thou wouldest bless me indeed, and enlarge my coast, and that thine hand might be with me, and that thou wouldest keep me from evil, that it may not grieve me! And God granted him that which he requested. (KJV) Through prayer, God’s blessings could be unleashed and be poured unto His people. His countless blessings in many forms will surely come to prayerful families with unwavering faith. We must bear in mind that family members that pray together will not be easily shaken, but become consistent contributors of strength to their growing family.                


         ·  Our children are God’s special gifts

   Genesis 33:5   I Samuel 1:26-28


       Our children are truly special gifts from God. In Psalm 127:3, it says, Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. (KJV) Through this passage, we realize that our children are heritage and reward and for such reason, we should thank God for them and love them in the way of truth. Children are jewels in our home and they are worthy to be nourished, protected and guided in the way God wants them to be. (see Proverbs 22:6)


        (III)   Its Biblical Concept And Purpose

        Psalm 127:4-5


       A prayerful study of Psalm 127:4-5 will certainly open our eyes of understanding and usher us to a more pleasurable in-depth study of the Biblical concept and purpose of building up one’s home. God wants us to understand His word through a vivid and illustrative manner so we may appreciate the beauty and power of the Scriptures.


       God wants us to have spiritual mindset which is according to the principle of truth, and to have a godly purpose of building up our families. Such things should not be overlooked neither underestimated. As we go further and deeper in our study, we will realize that truth has a liberating power which will open our eyes so we could see better and understand the true purpose of building up our families.                        


       -Our children are as arrows


       Psalm 127:4 says, As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. (KJV) Arrows are very interesting objects and their role in major battle should not be underestimated. Arrows are well-kept in a quiver; properly taken cared of by the archer; monitored; and their smallest parts to their biggest elements are carefully prepared before they are finally released to accomplish their purposes. In the hands of a well-trained and seasoned archer, every arrow should be well-managed and well-shot to hit its target. Its noteworthy release into the air represents a hopeful journey to its mission course and glorious destination. Such truth vividly describes the role of the parents to their children and it reminds us that every man living in this present life has a God-given role for the glory of God.


            ·  With different characteristics


       Like arrows, our children have different characteristics. Evidently, every child has his own temperament and inclination in life. For such reason, our children must be guided individually according to the plan of God so they may grow as God wants them to be. In Proverbs 22:6, it is written, Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. (KJV) It is always a wise investment to train our children early through the Word of God.


       -Parents are God’s stewards


       Many are not aware of the truth that parents are stewards and God-given managers of their respective homes and they are accountable to God for their children. The husband and wife have a very sensitive role in their home and if their ways are not guided by the principles of truth, they will surely come to naught. Without God, we cannot do anything good for our family. The best way to build up our family is through the Word of God.


       In Psalm 127:5, Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate. (KJV) A big family with ungodly members surely brings shame to a society. On the other hand, married couples without children are sometimes unhappy and feel humiliated because of physical infertility; but they should not lose hope but be prayerful because only God has the power to close and open the womb of a woman. Hannah prayed to God for a child and the Lord was so gracious to her and gave her a son named Samuel.   


       Godly parents with many children are really blest by the Lord especially if their children are found living in the fear of God. They are counted as happy parents not only because of the number of children they have but because they obtained God’s loving-favour.


       One thing we should not forget is that every member of a God-fearing family must contribute strength and good image to their home. Spiritually speaking, well-nourished children are strong and have the capability to help and protect their family from possible enemies.


       Seeing unhappy victims of broken homes and realizing that behind destroyed families is the devil, our hearts should be triggered to be more prayerful and have a closer walk with the Lord. We must keep in mind that letting the Lord build and strengthen our homes will keep us intact in the centre of His blessed will. It’s high time to display the power of truth and convey the love of our Lord and Saviour Christ for His Church through our well-built home and Local Church. Consequently, the banner of truth will continue to be lifted up and God will be glorified.            

Jose B. Cabajar Ministry